Recovery in the Lifestyle : RitL is a fellowship of BDSM lifestyle people and guests who are in recovery or would like to be. It is based on the 12 steps of recovery and recognizes that anonymity is most important for us all.

News & Events within Recovery in the Lifestyle

RitL Newcomer Brochure

RitL now has a .pdf brochure! Big thanks to RockerZee for all her work!

RitL Daily Reader

RitL is going to publish our very own Daily Reader book! and we need your lovely recovery-oriented writing, a title and artwork to make it happen! Please click this link for the official Submissions announcement!

RitL Meetings at conferences & events

Contact Us if you would like to learn more about having an RitL meeting at a lifestyle conference or an event.

RitL Group Updates

 "Online" Weekly RitL Conference Calls with Discord
Each week the Recovery in the Lifestyle Online Fellowship meets using a free PC & Phone  application called Discord which is available for all major platforms. Please visit the meeting page listing for more information about our discord server for the regular meetings on Monday & Wednesday at 8PM.

We have hosts for Monday and Wednesday nights and would love to have you join us! If you would like to get involved and chair one on another night, please notify us either via the Discord meetings, or by email at:


Suggestion: For the sake of anonymity and privacy, you may want to consider creating an Anonymous account that isn't your ordinary one with your full name.

Note: New members will need to be added to the Discord server prior to joining in the meeting call. Please get logged into the Discord server and added to the meeting well before meeting time so that we can be sure to vet and add you prior to the meeting.

Pittsburgh, PA - A new RitL group meets on the last Wednesday of the Month from 7-8 PM at Pittsburgh Friends Meeting House, 4836 Ellsworth Avenue, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 15213.

Boston, MA - A recovery group on the South Shore (Norwell) just 20 min drive from downtown Boston! They will be meeting every other Saturday evening at 6:00pm, next meeting Sept. 28th. If there is enough interest, they can potentially meet every week. For the specific location or any other questions, please send an email.

Los Angeles, CA - Beginning on Oct. 13, RitL will be meeting on the second Sunday of each month from 5-6PM at the Threshold Society, 11300 Hartland St, N. Hollywood, CA 91605. This is an open meeting and all are welcome to attend. We welcome all orientations and genders. $5 suggested donation; no one will be turned away or shamed. Please contact nyaDom via email or on FetLifefor more info..

Portland, OR - RitL meets first & third Wednesdays of the month at The Library Room at the Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi Ave, Portland, OR 97217. For more info, please contact Maestro_BC via email or on FetLife. Rockville, MD - First Monday of each month @ 8 PM, at a private home in the Twinbrook neighborhood of Rockville, MD. Contact SenorDongle on FL, or send an email to for the address.

Nashville, TN - Nashville has two monthly meetings, both are held at The Mark. The first is on the second Sunday at 4PM and the second is on the fourth Thursday at 7PM. For additional information, please visit their FetLife group or e-mail for info.

Long Island, NY - First and Third Monday of each month, from 7:30 – 9:00 PM @ Panera Bread, 345 Main Street in Huntington, NY 11743

Akron/Cleveland, OH - A new meeting will be starting Wednesday, June 27 from 7–9pm at a private residence, please, or visit the FetLife to RSVP!

Cincinnati, Ohio - This group now meets every Sunday at 445 Herman Street. Please read the full listing for the specifics on the location, please contact Whipfather on FetLife.

Ft. Lauderdale, FL - The original RitL group meets on the third Tuesday of every other month, at a private residence in Wilton Manors @ 8 PM. Please e-mail Aarkey for more info.

West Palm Beach - There is now a meeting on the 1st Wed of every other month, from 7 - 8 PM at the LGBT Compass Community Center in Lake Worth. Please e-mail Aarkey for more info.

New York City, NY - The weekly RitL meeting in Manhattan is on Wednesdays, downstars at Purple Passion. They ask people to try to arrive by 6:15. For more information, please e-mail them, or visit their FetLife Group.

Hartford, CT - RitL group meets most Thursdays from 7:30 - 8:30 pm at the "Society in Hartford" - website. For more information e-mail

 Philadelphia, PA - The long-running "Ties That Bind Us" kink meeting in Philadelphia is an RitL group. They meet every Sunday, 2:30-3:30 p.m. at the Passional Boutique & Sexploratorium.

Atlanta, GA - The group still meets on a weekly basis, but no longer has a monthly meeting at a local dungeon.



•; RitL Weekly Discord Calls:

Each week the Recovery in the Lifestyle Online Fellowship meets using an application called Discord which is available for all PC platforms and Smart Phones. There is no cost for the app, or to access the meetings.
Our Discord Server Link:

Discord Regular Weekly Meetings
Monday & Wednesday @ 8PM EST
Closed Women's Meeting, Sunday 3PM EST

• The Discord general chat is always open for anyone in need outside of regular meeting times. It's a great way to keep in touch, there is almost always someone on (yes 24/7) and we’ve been known to open impromptu meetings when there is a need.
• Additional details are available in the Discord Meeting Format document available here.

NOTE: You may want to consider creating an Anonymous account that isn't your ordinary one with your full name, for anonymity sake.

NOTE: If you would interested in starting another "online" style, or free phone meeting, please contact us.

We have SOLD OUT of patches. They were sold $20ea, shipping was included in the price. We are looking into ordering more ASAP. If you want to reserve any, please contact us to place an order, and click here to find out more about the patches!


The 7th Tradition - Where Money and Spirituality Mix

For information about 7th tradition contributions and our operating expenses, please visit this webpage.

Recent Donations - thanks to:
RitL NYC - $200
SWLC - $33
RitL NYC - $40

Possible Meetings of the Future?

Phoenix, AZ: There is interested in starting group in the Phoenix area. Please contact slave Daddy Johnnie for more info.

Indianapolis, IN: Essentia has contacted us, and is interested in starting group there. Please email her for more information.

Saratoga Springs, NY: Kinkerbell has contacted us, and is interested in starting group there. Please contact kinkerbell.

Houston, TX: We have received a contact in Houston who is interested in starting a meeting, please email them for information.

Fredrick, MD: There is interest in starting a group near DC & Baltimore. Please contact Sissy Syndi.

Sydney, Australia: There is interest in starting RitL down under in the Sydney! Please contact Phi to get involved.

Los Angeles: Some people have contacted us about starting an RiTL group in LA. If you want to get involved or want more information, please e-mail us.

Do you want to be listed here as someone seeking to start a group in your area? Just send your info to and we'll get you listed here online!

RitL General Services News:

◦ An Update to our Steps & Traditions: A discussion that formally began on our General Services Conference Call in June of 2015 and continued in two more discussions in October & January 2016 has lead to some wording changes in our steps and traditions. We have replaced the word "God" with "Higher Power" and we have replaced the use of "Him/He" to "It or Itself." You can download the revised Steps & Traditions in our document center.

◦ RitL General Services Conference Call: Got business? We are creating a steering committee to handle and help our fellowship evolve. If you any topics or questions please don't hesitate to send us an e-mail so that we can be of service.


RitL General Service Positions

Treasurer Mags has volunteered to step in as group Treasurer, but we are looking for someone to take the role permanently. Mistress Stormy has dutifully served as the treasurer for RitL since its inception and we are grateful for her longstanding service to the fellowship. If you think you can be of service this way, please send us an e-mail.


Outreach Chair During our latest General Services RitL conference call, we voted to create an "Outreach Chairperson" position, RockerZee has graciously stepped up to be of service. If you know of a lifestyle event that might be willing to host an RitL meeting, or print and distribute some of our flyers, please contact Zee at: For more information, please visit our outreach page.

RitL meetings not listed?
If you know of an RitL meeting that is not listed here on our website, please contact us so we can add it to the list. Thanks!


RitL Radio Interviews
◦ Interview with Mistress Stormy, slave Johanna & Aarkey 10/9/12 on Recovery Radio Raw (link). You can listen to it on their website here. Its approximately 90 minutes long, and is available for your listening pleasure in MP3 format. We will keep you posted if there are any further interviews planned.

◦ Interview with Aarkey 9/26/12 on Recovery Radio Raw (link). You can listen to it on their website here. Its approximately 54 minutes long, and is available for your listening pleasure in MP3 format.

Recovery in the Lifestyle Outreach:
We now have downloadable and printable flyers as well as the postcard/flyers to help spread awareness and carry outreach about RitL to other areas. You can download the printable flyers from our document center. If you would like us to send some postcards for distribution at appropriate places within your community, or at conferences & events. Please contact us and we will be happy to send you some cards at our cost. See a sample here.

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